Peace. Sometimes I’d settle for merely peace in my marriage. I know what many of you are thinking—Peace? I want Spice! Pizzazz! Fireworks! Yeah, I hear you, I want all of those things as well…but occasionally I’d settle for calm. I have a struggle. And maybe you can relate. Sometimes I have a raging fight […]
In all of our meaningful relationships, and especially in marriage, being willing to look at yourself through reality eyes will guide the health of the relationship. I don’t know about you, but I can be really mean, mean to the point where I’m embarrassed to share just how mean. I’ll be engaged in a conversation […]
Christmas can feel like we are spinning plates. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wonderful time of year, and it’s also a very busy time of year. Through all the busyness, how do you remember your one and only? I just got back from being out of town. Yeah, can you believe I was gone […]
Some time back I posted a blog titled “How To Get Him To Do That Honey-Do List,” and recently I received this comment: “I’m assuming you haven’t been married very long? Not to sound rude, but unless you’ve lived in a construction zone for the past two years like I have with unfinished projects at […]
We all know we reap what we sow, and in marriage this principle is a virtual flashing red light. The more work and attention you put into your relationship, the better it gets. And more importantly, the more joy you feel. Any time you see a happy couple, you are looking at a couple who […]
After being married for 36 years I finally took the love language test to find out what my love language was. I was totally surprised by the results. For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about Dr. Gary Chapman has a book titled, The 5 Love Languages and for some reason […]
My husband and I were in the kitchen. Our son said, “This is awkward, something doesn’t feel right between you two.” He was right. We were acting “normal” but he could feel the uneasiness. And where did this uneasiness come from? A conflict. We were in the middle of a conflict. He hurt my feelings. […]
When was the last time you were counting on someone and they totally let you down? My first recollection of being totally baffled and dumbfounded by someone who I thought I could trust and count on was when I was five years old. There was a teenager in my neighborhood, actually it was a male […]
As I sit in the lobby of the physical therapy center while my husband receives the treatment he needs for his recent knee replacement surgery I think about our many years together and the many challenges we’ve had. I’m thinking about marriage because I’ll be speaking about marriage soon at an upcoming conference. What should […]
It was a fantastic morning. I accompanied my kids to a gymnastic class for my grandchildren. The boys are ages two and two and a half, and they are both full of all the energy life can offer. Watching both boys play with their fathers was a highlight of my year for sure. But that’s […]
