Lewis Capaldi’s “Someone You Loved” is NOT About an Ex

One of the greatest love songs ever written, “Someone You Loved” by Lewis Capaldi has a story behind it that may surprise you. It shocked me. As I listened to this wonderful song I assumed it was about a bad break up—one where one is left spinning and trying to pick up the pieces. Most of us have been there and the pain can be searing.

Well, “Someone You Loved” is NOT about an ex-girlfriend at all, it is about Lewis Capaldi’s grandmother who passed away.

As a grandmother myself this truth really hit me… hard! 

Imagine having such an impact on a grandchild that they write a greatest hit song about you? Those of us who have had grandparents pass on and had a huge sad void left, can relate to this pain of losing a grandparent. But there are those who have had grandparents pass and it feels like the loss of a distant someone who you knew with little impression or relationship. 

All I know is that I’d like the former in my life to be true.

The impact of grandparents cannot be measured. We get to love, enjoy, teach tidbits, live the gospel in front of, quote the Bible, play with, spoil, and engulf ourselves fully in the presence of our grandchildren.

As a child I loved being in the presence of my grandmothers. There was always food, laughter, yelling (Italian family), fun, and the feeling of being loved like no one else.

I’d like to pass that on to all my grandchildren.

Thinking of a recent visit to our daughter’s home each of her two kids ages 9 and 7 wanted time with Grandma and Grandpa. Alone time.

The 7-year-old “called” a private meeting in her room summonsing Grandma and Grandpa with an important announcement. After getting us both seated on her bed she proclaimed, “Mom is SO annoying!” Which is truly funny because our daughter is one of the most un-annoying people on the planet. When asked, “Why?” she said, “A-pause (because) she copies me.” We both sat there and listened as this little charming 7-year-old laid out all of her grievances. Which was even funnier because she has a mom and dad who cater to her every need. She just wanted time for Grandma and Grandpa to listen and she was coming up with something to talk about. As we left the “meeting” I said, “You’ve got a great mom and you are very fortunate.”

Then, the 9-year-old wanted Grandma to visit with him in his room without his little sister. He played music and we talked about lyrics. This turned into a full-on dance party and it was one of the most fun and tiring things all at the same time. Wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Of course, the 7-year-old is upset now and wants Grandma alone in her room to listen to music and dance. After another even longer dance party the 9-year-old wants in on the fun. Her door was slammed open and shut quite a few times trying to keep big brother out. “Treat others the way you want to be treated” (Luke 6:31) was Grandma’s lesson of the day and soon big brother was in on the fun. We danced and sang until dinner was ready.

Being a grandparent is the ultimate of privileges and blessings. Take a moment to listen to “Someone You Loved” by Lewis Capaldi and reflect on the legacy of a grandma or grandpa. That title is truly an honor.

“We will not conceal them from their children, but we will tell the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and His power and His wondrous works that He has done.” – Psalm 78:4

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