I received a text from my daughter-in-law during her third trimester of pregnancy. She was praising her husband (my son) regarding his involvement while they waited for their first child. Having gotten the diagnosis for gestational diabetes, there were many new instructions from the doctor to follow. One of which was to do more exercising.
Jenny told me Tim was walking with her in the mornings before he left for work, and then again at the end of the day after work. Hearing this news warmed my heart. To me it was a huge window into what kind of parents they will be. He could have stepped back and said, “Okay, well, do what you need to do.” But he didn’t do that, he stepped up and stepped in.
Step up. Step in.
In a marriage, when she gets pregnant, you both are pregnant. I was thrilled my son didn’t leave his wife to figure out all that went with her new diagnosis alone. They joined forces and tackled it together. This is the mark of a great marriage, and a great parenting team.
Sadly, sometimes couples segregate responsibilities, and when trouble arises it turns into the every-man-for-themselves game. When really that’s the time to team up!
We are always stronger as a team.
Two are better than one because they have a
good return for their labor. For if either of them
falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe
to the one who falls when there is not another to
lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together
they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?
And if one can overpower him who is alone, two
can resist him. A cord of three strands is not
quickly torn apart.
Knowing we have another to walk through our difficulties with gives us tremendous resolve.
When life gets hard women want their men to step in and not step back.
I’m certain one place my son learned this principle from was his dad.
My husband has always been a source of help and encouragement. When I need advice, he gives it. When I need a shoulder to cry on, he offers it (even when he doesn’t understand the tears!) When I need someone to listen, he listens. When I need help cleaning the high tiles, he takes over. When I need help shopping for birthdays, and Christmas, he gladly joins me. When our kids were growing up, we raised them together.
When a woman feels loved and adored she’ll be your biggest cheerleader…greatest supporter…ultimate fan…chief admirer — she’ll move mountains to make you happy.
Husbands, your wife doesn’t just need your paycheck, (although we love it!) she needs your love and support.
- She needs you to be there when the plumbing blows up.
- She needs you to be there when your child comes home with a failing grade.
- She needs you to be there when a family fight breaks out.
- She needs you to be there through disappointments and struggles.
- She needs you to be there when she’s dealing with an emotionally difficult situation.
Men, don’t step back. Step up and step in!
Love the most important people with your most important possession—your time.
Until next time, love each other all out.