Have you ever noticed that oftentimes the person we have the hardest time forgiving is ourselves? Something happened yesterday. It was awful. It was my fault. Totally and utterly my fault. This is what happened… My husband just recently underwent partial knee replacement surgery. I’ve been caring for him through his recovery. Last night we […]
As I write this it is the night before my husband’s partial knee replacement surgery. Fear and anxiety are surging through my veins. I’m reminded of the words most like to use in times like these: “God will not give you more than you can handle.” But is that in the Bible? I think not. […]
I had always prided myself on not having yelled at my husband during labor with my kids. Well, my unblemished record just got demolished. I yelled at him during the birth of our granddaughter. It wasn’t pretty. Bragging rights have been rescinded. For the full story let’s go back to the beginning… Our daughter was […]
Happy birthday my dear husband, I wish I could say that our 36 years together have been glorious, but we both know I’d be lying. Even just this past Sunday I erupted all over you because I needed more time before I could leave and you were trying to help me by “hurrying me along” […]
My dear husband asked me on a date. We were fitting this date in-between the arrival of grand-baby number three and his impending knee replacement surgery. Let’s call it our last hurrah. I decided in my head that it was going to be a perfect night, and part of it being a perfect night included […]
“I feel beat up by you.” Those horrible words came out of my husband’s mouth. And they were about me. How had I been unkind? I really didn’t know. I reran the morning in my mind. I had said “thank you” no fewer than five times. I had praised him about the same. We had […]
November of 1987 I was waiting for what was to be the most monumental and life changing event of my life. One that would bring me more joy, laughter, tears, and celebration than I could have ever imagined. This epic change would mark my identity almost as much as saying “I do” some five years […]
Peace. Sometimes I’d settle for merely peace in my marriage. I know what many of you are thinking—Peace? I want Spice! Pizzazz! Fireworks! Yeah, I hear you, I want all of those things as well…but occasionally I’d settle for calm. I have a struggle. And maybe you can relate. Sometimes I have a raging fight […]
I have an unusual attachment to coffee mugs. There was one particular mug, which after years of daily use, my adored mug cracked. It felt like a crack in my heart. I set out on a hunt for a replacement mug, but to no avail. Discouraged, I put a plea on Facebook to see if […]
In all of our meaningful relationships, and especially in marriage, being willing to look at yourself through reality eyes will guide the health of the relationship. I don’t know about you, but I can be really mean, mean to the point where I’m embarrassed to share just how mean. I’ll be engaged in a conversation […]
