I felt as though the weight of my inability to make important decisions were pressing down on me as I drove home from an appointment. It can be so easy to get caught up in the cares of everyday life and not stay focused on the most important things. Can you relate to this?
And so I drove…but instead of driving home I stopped in the parking lot of my teen son’s school. I sent him a text asking if he wanted to go off campus for a lunch date with mom. It wasn’t long before I got a “yes!” back.
There I sat in the parking lot, my car windows down with a breeze gliding through and looking out at the beautiful mountains just in front of me. Psalm 121 came to mind and I started reciting it to myself.
“I lift up my eyes to the mountains; from whence shall my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. He will not allow your foot to slip; He who keeps you will not slumber. Behold, He who keeps Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade on your right hand. The sun will not smite you by day nor the moon by night. The Lord will protect you from all evil; He will keep your soul. The Lord will guard your going out and your coming in from this time forth and forever.”
Thirty minutes later the lunch bell rang and the high school students that were leaving campus flooded the parking lot. I heard the “F” word no less than 6 times. How does my son maintain his morals and beliefs in this environment?
Joseph arrived at my car and told me that we could go anywhere, indicating that he didn’t need to be back by his next class. I said, “So, you want me to help you ditch a class?” He laughed and said, “yes.” I agreed to help him ditch.
He pulled out his laptop and read me his presentation that he would now be presenting tomorrow. I was in awe; his work was beyond his years. He got to the end and said, “And I’m not sure how I am going to end it.”
“So, you weren’t ready for your presentation? I am gaining you one more day?”
“Exactly,” he replied, very matter of fact. I laughed.
We had a great time together eating and laughing and I got to hear many stories. (This was from a kid who replies sarcastically, “Amazing” to the question, “How was school today?”)
Suddenly “the cares of everyday life” didn’t seem so pressing. At the end of the day—or in this case long lunch—it is our relationship that matters most. What matters is that we have healthy relationships with the people who are most important to us.
I have a teenage son who is still willing to hang out with his mom, who maintains his love for God and holds to his beliefs everyday, even in a not so glorified environment.
Yes, I did help him ditch school, but what are moms for if not that?
Let your kids know they matter by making time for them…today…everyday. Don’t let the cares of each day rob you of what is most important.