While visiting my parents, with my daughter, who live in Las Vegas, we joined them to play Bingo. Hey, “While in Rome.” Sometimes I have a hard time hearing the bingo call and I’ll repeat it just to make sure I don’t make a mistake, when in reality it doesn’t matter because my mother is continually looking over my shoulder dabbing all the spots I miss.
My father says, “Get your ears checked!”
But a very unhappy older lady hollers, “Is there something wrong with her? Does she need to repeat the call?
“Yes!” without missing a beat says my 70-year-old mom, “Yes, she does!” My daughter and I tried to hide our erupting laughter.
This took me back to a time when I was five years old and I was kicked out of the carpool for rolling my eyes in the back seat. My mother got into a huge fight with the driver defending my honor and insisting, “My daughter would never do that!” After that I took the bus.
The funny thing is she never asked me if I had indeed “rolled my eyes,” which I am certain that I did. It was a common occurrence for me as a child. As I think back I can remember numerous times where my mom had “words” with people over them accusing me of “something.” She never would ask me if I was indeed guilty of the many “charges” I received growing up. Many times I was.
Wow, so much to ponder over this. I must say it is a wonderful feeling to have someone in your corner who thinks you could never do anything wrong, which is why I probably never told her when I was “guilty.” Hey, she never even asked.
But on the other hand, sometimes we need to look at our children through the eyes of reality to mold them into Christ-likeness. Mold them into productive citizens. Yes, there certainly is a time for praise, encouragement, cheering, and the value of pouring love on them is immeasurable. At times when we see the “imperfections” in our children it shines a light on our own imperfections. We all need to be committed to the process of growth, which requires 20/20 vision.
Any thoughts? What is the balance between praise and correction?
“Is there something wrong with her?” Yes there is!