Do you ever feel alone? I mean totally alone? Like there is no one who can understand or make you feel better?
I was feeling this way over a recent set back, and decided to give my husband a heads-up. Because the last thing I wanted was to add a fight to my already defeated demeanor.
In the middle of the day I sent Mike this text:
“Just wanted you to know so you don’t take it personally – I am so depressed today. It has nothing to do with you. You don’t need to call. Please don’t. Will see you when you get home. I love you.”
I ended it with a heart emoticon so I could feel like I was being a good wife even in my distress.
Of course, he called. He probably wanted to make sure I’d at least take a shower that day!
When I answered the phone I could hear the softness in is voice.
“How you doin’?”
“I feel so discouraged. I feel like my dreams are never going to happen. I feel so alone.”
“We will work on this together.”
WE. WE. WE.
That’s all he needed to say. There is power in the word WE. A team of two is always stronger than a team of one. The one word that will always make an impact is WE.
I broke down sobbing.
After I hung up the phone, my spirit was recharged. My zest for my husband was recharged. Knowing he was by my side, and that we were in this challenging life together, I didn’t feel alone anymore.
It was all I needed to do a pull-up and get back to business.
When was the last time you felt complete disappointment? We all have setbacks. We all feel down now and then. We all want to feel like we matter. Like we make a difference.
Having someone who loves us, and who will jump in our mess with us gives us the formula to love fully. To be the best version of ourselves. To not give up on our dreams.
The next time your spouse or someone you love is going through a trying time say, “We will get through this together.” It will make all the difference to them.
When has your spouse lifted you when you couldn’t lift yourself? Can you think of a time someone came alongside you and helped you through a tough time?