Wow. Really? Me? The woman who just blogged about having a great marriage? Really? Treat him bad? I don’t think so.
He definitely had my attention. And given the fact that he almost never displays anger it impacted me profoundly.
“Okay. I’m listening.”
“Dad has been overloaded lately. You’ve made things worse and added to his load by the way you’ve been acting.”
A tear rolled down my cheek.
He was right. My behavior had been out of line.
“I don’t want to make you sad. I mean, you’re a good mom and a good wife. But there isn’t anyone in your life who will call you on this.”
It was an extremely humbling experience. I told my son he was right and that I would be apologizing to his dad. I thanked him for calling me out.
After apologizing to my husband and being gracefully forgiven, I realized I needed to do an about-face. It is not enough to admit being wrong, we need to change our behavior. Isn’t it frustrating when someone says they are sorry and then turns around and does the same offense again? Don’t be that person.
If we truly desire to be the best version of ourselves we need to give credence to those brave enough to hold us accountable for our actions. To be the best wife, or husband, we need to continually look within and examine if we indeed are the problem. If you are not willing to examine yourself, your marriage will never be the best it can be.
I’ve spent much of my marriage feeling like I’m failing as a wife. But I think feeling like a failure has propelled me to do better and better.
Look within, make the changes, move forward. Never give up.