I hate conflict. I know it is necessary sometimes, and a part of life, but I don’t have to like it! But what is worse than me being in the middle of a clash, is when two of the people I love most in this world are at odds.
Yeah, that’s right I am talking about my kids and my husband. It can be Mike with one of our kids. Or it can be two of my kids…or all three of my kids. It does not happen often, but when it does, I feel hopeless, helpless and paralyzed. I want to fix it. I want to make it all better. I feel like I need to get in the middle and do “something,” anything.
Ultimately, I want my family to be close and in order for that to happen, conflict is part of the process. Conflict brings out true feelings and the opportunity for forgiveness. In the end conflict says, “I love you no matter what. I love you even during the bad times and ugly times.”
In my family all things return to normal (if one can call my family normal) and deeper relationships form as we all work through whatever comes up. I guess what would be even scarier than family conflict is a family without conflict, for that would mean that things are merely staying on a surface level.
My family is very close, and if closeness means conflict sometimes, then I’ll take that every time over a fake, surface family.
Don’t you think it’s worth it to dig in, work through conflict and get to the good stuff?