Can We Un-One Something?

While reading a book by pastor Andy Stanley a certain page jumped out at me. I must share it with you! He says the toughest sermon he ever preached was on divorce and remarriage. He went on to say that he didn’t like what the text read in the Bible and what Jesus said about the subject—it felt condemning and limiting.

There are many things in the Bible that just plain ole’ don’t make sense to us. Why would a loving and caring and faithful God ask us to do things which seem impossible at times?

Pastor Stanley then goes on and states what his main point of his divorce and remarriage sermon was…

“You can’t un-one what God has made one.” –Andy Stanley

To further illustrate his point, he had two pitchers of water. One pitcher had red “water” the other pitcher had green “water.” He poured both red and green together into another pitcher. *

The two became one.

“‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

-Mark 10:7-9

Once red (husband) and green (wife) are joined together we cannot separate them.

Sometimes in life we are faced with difficult circumstances, unbearable even, and the best way to proceed is to cling to the truth of God’s Word. Even the parts that plain ole’ don’t make sense.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

-Proverbs 3:5-6

Whatever is most difficult in your life today, trust God with it. Don’t carry it yourself, hand it over to the Father who loves you and cares for you beyond measure.

“You can’t un-one what God has made one.” –Andy Stanley

Either we trust God or we don’t, and this includes our marriage. 



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*Excerpts taken from “Communicating for a Change,” authors Andy Stanley and Lane Jones, page 108.



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