3 Ways To Keep Him Thinking About You All Day Long
Have you ever wondered what your husband thinks about all day? Thoughts are powerful, they can either enhance or damage your marriage.
One day before hubby left for work I was in the garage working-out. He stopped in to say goodbye. Being the idiot I can be I brought up a sensitive and charged issue. He barked. I barked back.
Who’s the dumb pup now?
He left upset and I finished my workout emotionally riled up. We later talked on the phone and resolved our dispute. But, it didn’t have to happen at all.
Better are the days in which we part with happier feelings and thoughts. To help you not make the mistake I did I’ve come up with 3 ways to keep him thinking about you in a positive way all day.
- Hide a love-note in one of his pockets – Imagine his embarrassment if he discovers the note in front of someone else! Okay, that’s just my depraved mind being exposed. But truthfully, he may be a tad embarrassed, but the guy watching will no doubt feel a bit envious. What to say on the note? Be creative. Let him know how much you love him. Add something you respect about him. End it with a lipstick kiss. No matter what you write he’ll get a kick out of it.
- Make-out with him before he leaves home in the morning – At this one you may be thinking: No way! I’m busy making breakfast and getting kids off to school or getting ready myself. Ain’t nobody got time for that! I understand. Know that this action will have great payoffs. He may come home early. He most definitely will come home happy. And he will be thinking about you for most of his day. Just try it out and see if you can fit it in. You may also be thinking: If I do that it may lead to something else and for sure, ain’t nobody got time for that! Do you want him to be thinking about you or not?
- Promise him a “surprise” when he arrives home – You decide what that surprise can be but you know what he’s hoping it is. I really don’t think I need to say more on this point. It speaks for itself.
So, there you have it. Give one or all of these a try and then let us know how it went.
How have you enhanced your marriage by navigating him toward positive thoughts about you?
Ok I’ll go first…..Honestly, you have to love Lu for opening up about subjects that we all think about but would never stand in the hallways and chat about. If we’re not thinking about it, then we should. We have to keep our marriages alive. Confessional: I’ve done #1 but secretly wish my husband would do this for me more than I do for him. #2 YES! #3 Bad at! I haven’t worked on this area in a long time, especially when our bodies are changing, they just don’t look the same but reality is, our husband’s don’t care about that! We’ll, I recently bought “a surprise” (on a whim I might add – not intentional), just the other day and in front of my daughters. Yes, I completely embarrassed them. I think I was being a rather good role model for my daughters and doing something healthy for my marriage. I think next time it will be on purpose.
Kelly, thank you so much for you honest feedback. Keeping the “spice” in marriage is an essential ingredient and working on it always pays off. For us and for them. Seriously, Kelly, THANK YOU!
Thanks for these ideas. My love language is acts of service and quality time(if at home that would be cleaning, with four kids I have a hard time keeping up) and my husband is physical touch and words of affirmation. Personally I really struggle with both. I have to be very intentional but I hardly come up with anything. I will definitely do all these from now on.
Evelyn…thank you for your comment. You make a very good point in that our love languages are often different than our spouse. One thing I always keep in mind is that I want a happy husband and whatever that looks like makes my life better. If you stick with giving him what he needs with regard to his love language (and it sounds like you’re doing fabulously!) I’m willing to bet he will step up with your love language of acts of service. And especially if you thank him even when he comes close to helping out. Such as, thanks for throwing your socks in the direction of the hamper, it was really helpful! LOL! But not in a sarcastic way, haha! Great comment, Evelyn!